You could be
Electricity
I come in every shape and every form
AC current, batteries, lightning, static electricity
In society I'm nothing special I'm the norm
Everyone has electricity.. well.. almost.
Without me there would be no control
They would die, the things filled with petrol
The spark that ignites a car's engine
If a being placed me a specific way
Even though they see me every day
Some beings come to a special place
Just to see me and look at my grace
Lighting instalation/light show, think christmas tree. Which leads to the last point
I'm not alive, but i can be livey
...
The ones who would appreciate me the most
They can't see me, because of the ability they lost
Blind people can't see the light.
Or you could be
Fire
I come in every shape and every form
You have the sun, you have fireworks and plain fire which can encompass whatever it burns regardless of shape
In society I'm nothing special I'm the norm
Everyone can make a fire
Without me there would be no control
They would die, the things filled with petrol
Petrol lamps/light sources. If they don't burn, they are dead
If a being placed me a specific way
Even though they see me every day
Some beings come to a special place
Just to see me and look at my grace
Remember me mentioning fireworks earlier?
I'm not alive, but i can be livey
...
The ones who would appreciate me the most
They can't see me, because of the ability they lost
Blind people will not see a candle, a camp fire or fireworks