Is it:
Life
I come in every shape and every form
In society I'm nothing special I'm the norm
Life is everywhere, in many form, and the norm in society.
Without me there would be no control
They would die, the things filled with petrol
Without life there will be no control, after sometime it become ancient fossilized organic materials or petroleum.
If a being placed me a specific way
Even though they see me every day
We see life everyday, but some we put on pedestal.
Some beings come to a special place
Just to see me and look at my grace
We go to the graveyard to honor life passed away
The ones who would appreciate me the most
They can't see me, because of the ability they lost
We miss life the most when we about to die, we can't see life again simply because we lost it.